Sáng suốt - Lối về Tự do 12

Sáng suốt: Có được sự sáng rõ, thấu đạt và thông tuệ trong việc đưa ra những phân định, lựa chọn để chăm sóc cho sự sống; nhận thức được rằng ai cũng có sự lựa chọn của mình.

• Đưa ra các ý kiến và sự lựa chọn dựa trên những phán xét đúng/sai,; tin rằng phán xét của bản thân chính là sự thật.
• Nhận thức được rằng có một cách khác để phân định và lựa chọn dựa trên sự chăm sóc các nhu cầu phổ quát, hơn là phán xét đúng sai, tốt xấu.
• Dần dần thuần thục trong việc phân định và lựa chọn với một góc nhìn rộng mở hơn, hiểu được ý nghĩa và ý định sâu hơn bên dưới bề mặt.
• Kết nối với trực giác sáng rõ, thấu đạt và thông tuệ của bản thân để đưa ra sự phân định và lựa chọn giúp chăm sóc sự sống.

Discernment: Clarity, insight, and wisdom in making life-serving distinctions and choices; recognizing one has choice.

• Opinions and choices are based on judgments of right and wrong; one believes one's judgments to be facts.
• Becoming aware of another way to make distinctions and choices based on serving universal needs, rather than based on judgments of good or bad, right or wrong.
• Has increasing competence in making distinctions and choices with a broad perspective, understanding the deeper meaning and intentions beneath the surface.
• Intuitively tunes into one's clarity, insight, and wisdom, to make life-serving distinctions and choices.

"Word of the Year" Kelly McGonigal

1. What do I want to contribute?
2. What matters most to me?
3. Reflect on what you wrote. Narrow it down to one word.

My equanimous presence. My clarity on what constitutes a meaningful life.

What matters most to me: Right mindfulness. Faith in myself that I'm walking the right path. Temperance. Connection to nature. Watching out for my selfish thoughts & calculations.

Reflect on what you wrote. Narrow it down to one word. Trì giới.  

Moral Judgment: They talk a lot.

Observation 1: I hear they talk a lot.

Observation 2: I'm hearing more words than I like, than I'm capable of understanding.

Value Judgment: I value quiet and conciseness. I value taking turn during conversation.

Reflection: Think of a time 

1. Think of a time when you told yourself you did not have a choice... what did you hear?
2. What did you do?
3. How do you feel RIGHT NOW about what you did? Notice - Name - Allow. You've always wanted to be caught, be acknowledged by somebody. This is your chance to acknowledge it for yourself.
5. What needs did you hope would be satisfied by your behavior? In other words, what benefit did you expect by behaving the way you did? Everything is done in service of a need, though it may not satisfy the need.
6. What needs were not met by your behavior? What were the costs?
7. Distill the needs that you hoped to meet and the needs your action didn't meet into just one need for each.
8. Place your needs on each of your hand. Savoring: give it weight, texture, aroma, etc. Bring them together. Then to your heart. If you don't like it just ignore it.
9. Stay with this intention, maybe journal after tonight might give you more ideas.

1. Observation: I cannot say no to S, I don't want to do this e-course with you anymore. Please release me from it. She'll be upset. I'll be ashamed that I didn't tackle this job.
2. Judgment: I'm such a weak person for not doing this job. She doesn't know what the fuck she's doing with her business anyway.
3. Essence: I feel stressed while doing this job. I've never done it before. I need you to give me more information, or else I'm afraid this course is too thin and cannot sell.
4. I kept quiet and tried to fill in 1 spreadsheet, 1 document, 1 folder, 1 classroom, 1 Mural.
1. I'm not clear of the goals, what would the students get out of this course? Expectations?
5. I feel stressed, confused, unclear, resistant, demotivated, scared of coming to work, no-way-out, stuck. Show me the meaning.  
6. If I just shut up and push through, maybe I'll find something good, then she will be happy with me? I wanted clarity, is it MY problem, am I blaming her? Am I saying NO just because I'm stressed? I wanted to avoid, I wanted to be at ease. I wanted to FOCUS my energy on what matters. Give me your content. I was shutting down, not actually thinking. Get this over and done with. Stretching myself to satisfy others. Balance between my ease and contribution. 
7. Honesty, mutual understanding, support, clarity. 
8. Staying grounded in my own choice.
9. Balance and mutual understanding.
10. This came up for me: "I care for you so much I want to give the best of myself to you. And I cannot do that without honesty between us." I felt relaxation and warmth towards the end of this exercise. I believe I can enter the meeting later today with more ease now. Thank you so much Jim.

Our brain is designed to meet needs. We only need to guide us to need. 

Evaluation: judgment - Discernment: quality of insight, seeing something we didn't see before.

If you did something, do not judge yourself as wrong. You did something that, had you known what you now know, you would have things differently.